Comments on: Is he right, or am I? http://www.halloween-blog.com/is-he-right-or-am-i/145/ Halloween ideas blog - for halloween fun this October stop by Halloween Blog.com Fri, 12 Oct 2007 22:49:09 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Nellie http://www.halloween-blog.com/is-he-right-or-am-i/145/comment-page-1/#comment-258 Nellie Mon, 08 Oct 2007 07:17:20 +0000 #comment-258 Hmm. . . where do you live? I have lived in 2 different homes in the past 10 yrs. In each, we sat out a big bowl of candy bars with a sign posted above that read, "Help yourself to just one. You are being watched". We then dressed up like dummies and placed ourselves throughout the front yard, stoop, etc.. Most didn't know we were actually in costume. The kids were really good about just taking one candy bar. If you really have concerns about other kids getting candy. Sit the bowl, hang the sign, and leave. You enjoy your son's Halloween and your conscience is clear. If you live in a bad area of town, this probably won't work. Hmm. . . where do you live? I have lived in 2 different homes in the past 10 yrs. In each, we sat out a big bowl of candy bars with a sign posted above that read, “Help yourself to just one. You are being watched”. We then dressed up like dummies and placed ourselves throughout the front yard, stoop, etc.. Most didn’t know we were actually in costume. The kids were really good about just taking one candy bar. If you really have concerns about other kids getting candy. Sit the bowl, hang the sign, and leave. You enjoy your son’s Halloween and your conscience is clear. If you live in a bad area of town, this probably won’t work.

]]> By: Ron L http://www.halloween-blog.com/is-he-right-or-am-i/145/comment-page-1/#comment-240 Ron L Wed, 31 Dec 1969 18:00:00 +0000 #comment-240 I think you are asking the wrong question- is he right, or am I.<br /><br />can do it either way or many different ways. It's not about this particular question, but about how he and you resolve conflicts.<br /><br />will always be conflicts.<br /><br />people are not always going to see things the same way. On the positive side, it's good that you are both stating your own views about things to each other. But, you both feel you are right about this issue. I am an attorney and have studied dispute resolution techniques.<br /><br />all people use poor dispute resolution techniques.<br /><br />is a game called the win-win game which describes basic conflict resolution and teachers sometimes use to help their students resolve conflict. First, you read the rules- no interrupting.<br /><br />person takes a turn. Then, one person says his side of things while the other listens- no interrupting.<br /><br />he is done, the other talks until he is done. If you need to, you can do another round of this- taking turns. Then,you brainstorm- just generate lots of ideas with no critiquing of the ideas.<br /><br />them all down on paper- not proposals- not positions- not evaluating the ideas. Then, see if there are any ideas you can both agree on. Sometimes, you may need to repeat this process until you get a solution.<br /><br />this method with your husband and see if you can get a win-win solution to the halloween situation.<br /><br />wishes. I think you are asking the wrong question- is he right, or am I.

can do it either way or many different ways. It's not about this particular question, but about how he and you resolve conflicts.

will always be conflicts.

people are not always going to see things the same way. On the positive side, it's good that you are both stating your own views about things to each other. But, you both feel you are right about this issue. I am an attorney and have studied dispute resolution techniques.

all people use poor dispute resolution techniques.

is a game called the win-win game which describes basic conflict resolution and teachers sometimes use to help their students resolve conflict. First, you read the rules- no interrupting.

person takes a turn. Then, one person says his side of things while the other listens- no interrupting.

he is done, the other talks until he is done. If you need to, you can do another round of this- taking turns. Then,you brainstorm- just generate lots of ideas with no critiquing of the ideas.

them all down on paper- not proposals- not positions- not evaluating the ideas. Then, see if there are any ideas you can both agree on. Sometimes, you may need to repeat this process until you get a solution.

this method with your husband and see if you can get a win-win solution to the halloween situation.

wishes.

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